God
works in the most miraculous ways when his children are hurting [for all of us]; and the holidays make this pain fore fold. I was in the mall
in Asheville two years ago [April 2011]. I was just wondering around; so bereaved over the loss
of our Justin. I had lost control of my emotions and a young man working a
gold kiosk approached me hocking gold. Firstly~ I was in a real daze [this was my first trip out of the house [alone] since Justin's murder on January 11, 2011] and
truly I did not wish to speak with anyone. Before
I could control myself I jumped this young man; unexpectedly he jumped me
back. After a heated argument ensued I hurriedly walk away because I truly wanted to [rip out his
juggler].
The more I walked the worse I felt; yelling at people is not my personality. I walked all the back to his kiosk determined to apologize for my inexcusable behavior...we both blurted apologizes at the same time and hugged.
It turned out Tim Burns [22 years old] was from Boston and his younger brother was murdered [12 years before]. We talked for quite some time about his brother Robbie and my son Justin. He even called his mom, Kristi, in Boston, where he was born. His mother a retired Captain from the military had been the president of a victims advocate chapter for four years. Tim took my number and promised he would have his mom call me. I had no sooner gotten to my car, in the mall parking lot, when my cell phone rang and it was his mother! She talked with me for three hours. Adding, at this time, her youngest son [Robbie] had been gone 12 years and she still was far from over the tragedy that took Robbie away and she cry's a lot [at the time~ Twelve years later she professed to a total stranger]; "I have a few good days but I still experience bad days that lead to bad weeks." and...she is a retired CAPTAIN!
Tim and his mother [Kristi] keep in touch with me [off and on]; although, I had not spoken to [or seen Tim] in 8 months. Out of the blue he called last week and asked if he could take me out for Mother's Day dinner {???!!!???}. I was not sure if I was ready; [now 25 years old; the same age of my Justin] he told me to think about his invitation; it was open whether I was ready or not.
Tim called Mother's Day morning and I said, "Yes that it would be nice to get out." But all day long I had doubts...I talked to a friend who encouraged me to go~it took all the strength I could muster; but I got ready and we met at Hannah Flanagan's~a great Irish Pub setting with wonderful food and atmosphere. Tim reminds me of our Justin [not in looks] but in his demeanor. He is smart, funny, worldly and kind.
In the south one ends up carrying on conversations with everyone [even total strangers] sitting around them [it's a hillbilly thang]. This lovely couple in their forties were so funny and talkative and we enjoyed the conversation. It was time for us to leave and I walked over to this lovely couple to say, "good evening" and the woman immediately says, "GURL you got it going on!" This caught me off guard and I said, "Excuse me?" OMG!! OMG!! She and her husband thought I was a cougar with the catch of the century!!!!! I felt my face blush; I quickly and briefly told them Tim had asked to take me to mother's day dinner because my son is gone and his mother lives in Boston. The lady stood up and hugged me twice and her husband was speechless.
Life's Lesson #104~ never ASSUME! hahahaha I did have a wonderful time and I am so happy God arranged this...somehow I feel Justin may have had a hand in this wonderful evening
I had a wonderful Mother's Day thanks to Tim Burns.
I remain Justin's [got to gut laugh last night] momma
The more I walked the worse I felt; yelling at people is not my personality. I walked all the back to his kiosk determined to apologize for my inexcusable behavior...we both blurted apologizes at the same time and hugged.
It turned out Tim Burns [22 years old] was from Boston and his younger brother was murdered [12 years before]. We talked for quite some time about his brother Robbie and my son Justin. He even called his mom, Kristi, in Boston, where he was born. His mother a retired Captain from the military had been the president of a victims advocate chapter for four years. Tim took my number and promised he would have his mom call me. I had no sooner gotten to my car, in the mall parking lot, when my cell phone rang and it was his mother! She talked with me for three hours. Adding, at this time, her youngest son [Robbie] had been gone 12 years and she still was far from over the tragedy that took Robbie away and she cry's a lot [at the time~ Twelve years later she professed to a total stranger]; "I have a few good days but I still experience bad days that lead to bad weeks." and...she is a retired CAPTAIN!
Tim and his mother [Kristi] keep in touch with me [off and on]; although, I had not spoken to [or seen Tim] in 8 months. Out of the blue he called last week and asked if he could take me out for Mother's Day dinner {???!!!???}. I was not sure if I was ready; [now 25 years old; the same age of my Justin] he told me to think about his invitation; it was open whether I was ready or not.
Tim called Mother's Day morning and I said, "Yes that it would be nice to get out." But all day long I had doubts...I talked to a friend who encouraged me to go~it took all the strength I could muster; but I got ready and we met at Hannah Flanagan's~a great Irish Pub setting with wonderful food and atmosphere. Tim reminds me of our Justin [not in looks] but in his demeanor. He is smart, funny, worldly and kind.
In the south one ends up carrying on conversations with everyone [even total strangers] sitting around them [it's a hillbilly thang]. This lovely couple in their forties were so funny and talkative and we enjoyed the conversation. It was time for us to leave and I walked over to this lovely couple to say, "good evening" and the woman immediately says, "GURL you got it going on!" This caught me off guard and I said, "Excuse me?" OMG!! OMG!! She and her husband thought I was a cougar with the catch of the century!!!!! I felt my face blush; I quickly and briefly told them Tim had asked to take me to mother's day dinner because my son is gone and his mother lives in Boston. The lady stood up and hugged me twice and her husband was speechless.
Life's Lesson #104~ never ASSUME! hahahaha I did have a wonderful time and I am so happy God arranged this...somehow I feel Justin may have had a hand in this wonderful evening
I had a wonderful Mother's Day thanks to Tim Burns.
I remain Justin's [got to gut laugh last night] momma
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